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Something I found on an old livejournal I had:
Post anything that you want, and post it anonymously.
A story, a secret, a confession, a fear, a love... anything. Make sure to post anonymously and honestly. Post as many times as you'd like.
Then, put this in your LJ to see what others have to say.
I've turned off the option of logging IP addresses, so I have no way of knowing who you are.

Date: 2013-01-22 02:28 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
You're very handsome. *blush*

Date: 2013-01-22 02:38 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
I went through a time of questioning whether or not I was a transman. It was really, really difficult. I felt like there was no one I could turn to for answers. My mother found some of my binders that I had bought and absolutely freaked out. She wanted to make sure I didn't think I was a boy. Although I hate my breasts most days, they're getting smaller with exercise. And they're small enough now where I can bind and be relatively flat chested which makes me happy. My breasts make me unhappy but I'm okay with my lower genitals. Confusing much? Ugh. =/

Date: 2013-01-24 07:57 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
I kind of want to sleep with a trans girl who's willing and then I could have the best of both worlds!

Date: 2013-01-25 03:15 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I'm sorry, I know this is supposed to be anonymous, but I had to chime in on this comment.

A trans* person is someone who's gender identity does not correspond with their biological sex. They want to be viewed as 'male', 'female', or a combination of both male and female, or neither one at all.

Your comment about 'having the best of both worlds' truly strikes me as insensitive and hurtful to members of the trans* community. A trans female (MtF) is female - whether or not they decide to have Gender Affirmation Surgery (GAS). Whether or not a trans* person decides to have GAS is a very personal decision. If they choose not to get surgery, it makes them no 'less' of a trans* person than someone that decides to get GAS surgery. A trans female is as equal as a cis female in my (and many other's peoples) books.

Some trans* people (I don't want to speak for the entire trans* population, but most) are incredibly dysphoric in their born body. Having sex is often times very difficult and brings up very painful, difficult, overwhelming, and uncomfortable emotions.

To say you want 'the best of both worlds' is disrespectful, demeaning, and minimizes the struggles of the trans* community. It also brings up the point of the oversexualization of trans* females in a variety of industries, not limited to: the pornography industry, Craigslist, and other areas in society.

In conclusion, please feel free to reach out to me (or Devin, if he's comfortable, I don't know if that's the case) about trans* issues and cis privilege.
Edited Date: 2013-01-25 04:18 am (UTC)

Date: 2013-01-28 11:00 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Sorry, I totally agree with you. I have an up close glimpse of what it's like to be trans, no lie. I only phrased it that way ("best of both worlds") because I tend to have a sense of humor about those offensive views. I was basically saying "Haha, it's funny because I'm not actually a douche." And love and respect comes before sex or fetishizing a person sensitive in that area. I know "best of both worlds" doesn't line up with the discomfort and feelings of trans people. And I empathize with gender dysphoria. I hate to offend. I didn't mean it that way. <3

Date: 2013-01-30 08:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
You are reinforcing the stereotypes that mainstream society have about trans* people. You are reinforcing hatred, oppression, and violence directed towards trans* people solely based on their gender identity. How is that a good thing? How is that funny?
Edited Date: 2013-01-30 08:19 pm (UTC)

Date: 2013-02-06 02:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Damn, I'm not reinforcing that shit. It was just a joke. I guess only my best friend who is a trans girl would understand that joke, because she knows I would only use it in the context of "I'm dating another transgender girl and she wants to use it," and I'm not pretending to have the view that all trans people "give you the best of both worlds" right off the bat, like "OMGZ chick with a dick" because I don't believe that. And it's offending me that you think this about me off of one misconstrued post, because I love trans people and the girl I'm dating, I see completely as a girl and fucking transphobia pisses me off.

It's like making a lesbian joke in reference to myself and saying "Huhuh, dating me is like getting the best of both worlds 'cause I'm boyish and that means I must want to be a man." Which isn't my opinion, but mocks stereotypes and generalizations that make me mad. So I retract what I said. I shouldn't have said it here on an LJ of someone I don't even know yet. But I think you're overreacting. I said I didn't mean it that way and it's not my intention to bring any dysphoric trans people down. Oddly, I could say that same joke to the two trans people I'm close to and they wouldn't get as impassioned and angry as you are. Is it because if YOU were trans, YOU wouldn't want to use it? Because not everyone is like that. Or as defensive about it. I bothered to clear up my meaning, isn't that enough to prove I'm not meaning to oppress trans people?
Edited Date: 2013-02-06 03:10 pm (UTC)

Date: 2013-02-06 02:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
The only thing funny about it-- which a nonexistent, insignificant, miniscule part of my brain merely chuckled at, was "best of both worlds" is not something I would actually expect, want, or fantasize about IN THOSE WORDS. That's what was funny. Not that negative connotation going along with those words, but the irony that the words don't suit my outlook on the situation.

Date: 2013-02-13 11:54 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Actually, your original post was not misconstrued. I did not take anything you said out of context, nor did I overreact to what you said.

Your original post only said:

"I kind of want to sleep with a trans girl who's willing and then I could have the best of both worlds!"

There was no context to your post. I'm so bloody sorry that I didn't read between the lines of your SINGLE SENTENCE trans*phobic post and realize that you were actually a person who was supportive of trans* rights.

Fuck you, asshole.

Date: 2013-02-14 12:32 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Lol ok. Well at least now some stranger on the internet thinks I'm an asshole too.

Why would I expect you or anyone to read between the lines? I didn't think about it. I didn't really care. But I'm done trying to clear my name.

I'm such a violent transphobic oppressive asshole.


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